Every caddie learns this lesson, usually the hard way. You can't hit the shot. Once you've handed over the club and offered your read, your work is finished. The rest belongs to the golfer.

How many times have I wanted to swing for someone else? I wanted to make a decision for a friend because I was sure they were making a mistake. I wanted to protect my kids from disappointment before they'd had a chance to grow from it.

You can love someone deeply and still let them choose. You can offer wisdom without demanding obedience.